Wednesday, August 22, 2012
Guest Post at Sweet Anne Designs
Sunday, June 24, 2012
Living with Food Allergies: Overcoming Challenges
- People telling you (directly or indirectly) that they think you're limited or "damaged goods" due to your strange immune system.
- Strangers commenting on your weight or body in a negative light.
- Misunderstandings about what you can and can't eat, and others seeing you as difficult due to your limited diet.
- Feeling alone or isolated from people, close and not so close, that don't fully understand your situation or refuse to acknowledge it.
- Struggling with safe food choices and keeping a balanced diet despite numerous restrictions.
- Self loathing or feeling inadequate due to being different with food allergies.
- Frustration on not being able to eat what everyone else does.
- Depression/Anxiety over your permanent situation.
- Feeling the need to apologize to others for your special diet or food allergies.
At first, I had a hard time grappling with the changes that had been shoved into my life without my consent. I felt myself asking questions like, "Why me?" or "How am I going to overcome this without losing myself?". The truth is, all of the above have come to be great and priceless blessings, even if it felt like the absolute opposite at the start.
Using these obstacles as stepping stones to building yourself back up after the fall takes patience and practice, but will ultimately make you stronger and more resilient than anyone or anything aiming these negative energies your way. Some of my best days have been laughing in the face of what seemed to be impossible to live with. I am constantly surrounded by food I cannot eat everywhere I go, but that doesn't mean my attitude needs to be sour. Let your light shine brighter and learn to love what you do have. Here's some of the many things I'm thankful for and that have taught me to embrace my radiant self, no matter what's testing me that day:
- Precious and delicious food that I can eat
- Learning to be my own gourmet chef and rock it out in the kitchen whenever I have a craving (waaay cheaper, healthier, and more fun than a few rounds at a run of the mill restaurant).
- My support system: Family is forever and the ones you can trust to just "be there" truly shine with you through the challenges making you realize your full potential and grace.
- The power of nature, nourishing the body, mind, and spirit, and keeping life simple.
- A positive outlook changes your life, and no one can take away your own powerful thoughts.
- Organic, pure, and real food.
- Small steps and victories that reaffirm you are capable of anything you focus on overcoming.
- How small and big my life seems at the same time when I look at the sky.
- Others negativity ultimately becomes my strength.
- Love. Pure and Simple.
That list could go on probably forever, but you get the idea. Overcoming challenges from living with special diets or food allergies can be difficult, there's no question about that. It's what you do with the opportunity that's knocking. Let your little light shine and be authentically you. You don't ever have to apologize for that. You are strong, beautiful, and you are the one that's in control. What will you do with your blessings today?
Sunday, May 20, 2012
What almost dying taught me.
Before last summer, I'd never prayed for my life before. I'd never felt the sharp jab of mortality. What I had felt before was the ease with which air effortlessly passed into my body and saturated me with life. What I'll never feel again is the naive ungratefulness I knew before I almost died.
Unknowingly, I was suffering a severe and life threatening allergic reaction called anaphylaxis shock. My limbs went numb, my stomach convulsed, and my throat began to close up to the point where I was gasping for air. I clutched for items to hold onto to get some sort of stability and the fleeting normal physical feelings. But all I could think about was how much I had taken for granted in my life as the bulging lump in my throat threatened to take it all away. And then I saw a fuzzy blackness began to crawl over my peripheral vision.
Who was I to be judging the universe? Complaining about trivial things? I can tell you that instances where you had ridiculously complained about unimportant things, like that time you ordered a water with ice and received a warm water with no ice, flash before you when your body is failing fast and life is leaving. You remember how you treasured material things more than the life and feelings of a poor stranger. Then you get smacked in the face. Hard. You see the beautiful shades of color that seemed so ordinary before shining brilliant and vivid, waking you. You fall to the ground with the gravity of the world around you and are instantly and permanently humbled. You realize how small and how big your life is all at once. Everything is pulsing, and in that moment you are truly alive.
You will never be the same. And it's a blessing.
I was able to ride out this deadly allergic reaction (to soy) due to the genius of my boyfriend who gave me antihistamines even though he wasn't sure what was happening while we waited for the ambulance to arrive.
I'm forever grateful for the life that pulses through my veins and the time I have here. Don't miss a moment. I don't have to tell you that you never know what will happen next. If I ever feel my spirit dying again, I'll breathe and remember.
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Unleashing Inner Strength
Taken on a relaxing morning filled with the warm scent of cinnamon.
There's always time for being young and silly at heart. I find it vital to my existence.
Spontaneous brunches. My favorite coaster is shown here.
Monday, January 30, 2012
12 Ways to be Self Sustaining
Usually the term self sustaining refers to living a greener, more environmentally friendly life that helps you to be able to rely less on modern produce and other items. I believe being self-sustainable goes way further than that. When we apply this self-sustaining mentality to our entire being, a transformation occurs. Think of your mind, body, and spirit as a garden that you would grow to be more self-sustaining. You have to nourish it each day to ensure that it continues to blossom and bear fruit. Often we get caught up in the whirlwind of everyday life, and while the following steps may seem basic, it's amazing how many people forget them with time. It's Back to Basics for a new sustainable you! Body, Mind, Spirit, and Lifestyle.
- Eat less Sugar—Excessive sugar consumption is actually the number one factor leading to premature aging! Limit your processed/refined sugar intake and focus on eating more fresh fruits and fresh squeezed juices instead. Which leads to…
- Make your own Juices and Smoothies—This is a fun one and a great way to experiment with different food combinations. We have two different juicers at home—a citrus juicer, a power juicer (more for vegetables), and we also have a high power blender. Try mixing different fruits and vegetables into juices and smoothies that resemble the V8 fusion juices or veggie juices you might buy in the store. Health starts from the inside out. Read more about making yummy juices here.
- Get enough sleep!—Getting enough shut eye really plays a part in how you think and act during the day. If you’re constantly running low on sleep and energy, it’s easy to fall into habits such as being cranky, thinking negatively, and running your body down. Just because you’ve pumped yourself full of caffeine with your morning Latte doesn’t mean your body and mind aren’t still tired.
- Living with purpose—Find your passion and pour yourself into it. Find what interests you most and work towards making that a large part of your life, maybe even your career. If you love what you do, you'll always be more spirited and inspired.
- Take responsibility—Stop blaming others. As soon as you blame the responsibility for a situation onto someone else, you are admitting helplessness and you give up the control you once had. If you take responsibility, you are more likely to take action to fix the problem or situation. No one should have to do it for you. I like the saying that one of my former workplaces had framed on the wall: “This ain’t your Momma’s house. Clean up after yourself!”
- Practice a positive attitude towards everyone you meet—Everyone has a story. You never know where they've been or what got them to where they are now. Be compassionate and treat every person as just that--a person. Don't treat passing cars as just cars--cars are people so drive with caution and conservatively.
- Brush it off—There are always negative forces in the world that will threaten to dim your spirit. Brush off negative thoughts and comments and don’t let the insecurities of others get to you. Insecure people will always try to spread the blame around for their own issues
- Stressing is a no gain—So someone screwed up the order at work again and you spend the next hour having to redo, even though it’s not your job. Things like this are small in the scheme of things. Don’t allow yourself to slip into the habit of letting the small stuff ruin the rest of your day. I often see clients and workers in my line of work stressing to the max when the slightest things go amiss. One situation that happened recently was a man rising to anger and frustration over a crowded breakfast area in a hotel. The man yelled at me in front of everyone, and instead of asking me if there was additional seating (which there was in the next room over), he decided to yell: “You don’t have any additional seating! Where am I supposed to sit now?” I answered in a friendly manner that there was a whole different breakfast room in the next room over. He then seemed sorry for yelling as he led his children to the next room. Be a good example for yourself and others. Children mimic their role models.
- Challenge yourself to see potential mishaps in a new light--That hot-tub at the hotel you booked is down for maintenance? Now you have more time to go explore the new city you’re visiting! Which I guarantee is going to be more exciting than some hot water and bubbles.
- Reinvent your mind—I try to do brain exercises a few times a week. I know it might sound funny at first, but you work out your body, so why not work out your mind to keep it in good shape? Exercising your brain helps ward off mental decay such as dementia. I use a free podcast called "Brain Ready" through Itunes. Check it out here.
- Savor the peaceful moments and carry them with you wherever you go--Draw upon them during hectic days and situations to help keep calm and in control. Meditation really helps with keeping this balance. I often try to visualize a safe beautiful scene in my mind while meditating and then picture the image in my mind later on when I feel I need a moment to revitalize. I started meditating with Chill Meditation podcasts here.
- Stop worrying what other people will think—Who says you can’t take some you time and go see a movie on your own? What other people think about who you are is none of your business. You know who you are the best, and it’s great to get to know that person even more. I think Dr. Seuss put it best when he wrote something along the lines of: “Be yourself no matter what the kind. Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” That’s not an excuse to be a cruel or negative person though ;)
Going back to simple lessons and basics makes for a more sustainable you. Keep it simple sweetheart!
What is your key for applying the self-sustaining mentality to not only your garden, but your life?
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Saturday, January 21, 2012
Quiet Moments
Sunday, January 1, 2012
Two Thousand Twelve
I'm not one to dwell on the past at the start of this year, so I'll start right off charging full speed ahead. We kicked the year off right and I'm so excited to see what it holds in store for us all. Good things are ahead, I can feel it.
This is the first year I've actually written down physically on a piece of paper my aspirations for the new year. I've hung the page in the apartment where I can see it each day of the year as a reminder to stay on track. Here's a few of my favorite points from the page I wrote:
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Wishing you a bright, magical 2012.
Remember this year, that you are much stronger than you know.
My new favorite toast of 2012 that I shared with Yan on New Year's Eve:
A toast to many things".
Monday, December 26, 2011
Happy Christmas!
Wishing you all a magical, safe, healthy and happy Christmas and holidays!
Here are some bits of my first soy-free and legume free (3rd Gluten-free) Christmas.
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^^ Stay tuned for more about my triple layer cake with homemade raspberry sauce!^^
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The Merriest Christmas and happy holidays to you and yours. Peace on Earth, and goodwill to your tummies =)
Saturday, December 17, 2011
Sprinkles
Today I'm just sharing a few sprinkles of joy that I find renewing.
Yesterday I found myself in a bit of a funk, not being very creative with my food choices. I started to feel a little down about having extreme food allergies, but quickly put a stop to that as I remembered how lucky I am to even be sitting here. I remembered how important it is to live in the moment as much as possible and to not let this obstacle change my positive mindset. Here's a few of my favorite things that never fail to boost my spirits on the occasional "off" day.
- Fabulous cakes that look harder to make than they actually are, even allergen free! -
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Check out the recipe here or click the above.
- Dave Matthews Band -
Dave is always full of reflective and magical lyrics that just bring me to a whole new place. His live shows are some of my favorite memories.
- Those quiet moments, when you realize life is not as hard as it seems -
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- When you realize living simply is the best living -
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- Inspirational truths -
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Monday, November 28, 2011
Thoughts: Living with Food Allergies is Actually...Easy
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Sprinkles
Saturday, August 13, 2011
Soy here, Soy there, Soy is Everywhere: B.V.O
I've been doing some philosophizing lately. Well, I suppose it's less philosophizing and more learning from experience but nevertheless, this whole soy allergy thing has got me asking a lot of questions. The first seems obvious; Why is soy in everything? Why has it been pumped in such a high amount into modern society? Why is this modern society okay with consuming high amounts of genetically modified cash crops that are mainly designed to make big corporations (example 1: Monsanto) big bucks? Some may say it's a cheap way to feed a large world population...but at what cost?
It is a fact that Soy contains high phytoestrogen levels; something that can mess with hormones in your body. When soy saturates most processed foods, is fed to a large portion of animals in the meat packing industry(I've had strong allergic reactions from soy feed vegetarian feed chicken, and vegetarian soy fed eggs.), lurks in health and beauty products, and even coats some fresh produce in the form of wax to make already delicious natural food look more appealing, I'm still waiting to hear how that much soy is a good thing. Sure it contains isoflavines which are "good for the heart!", but when you're unknowingly consuming loads of soy every day, why would you want to add another cup of straight soymilk on top? I'm frankly surprised more people aren't asking questions. If you ask me, overload and over-consumption of soy may be behind a great amount of disease and sickness in the U.S.
Not to mention the soy in Brominated Vegetable Oil--Yes, it's made from Bromine. Now I'm a fan of heavy metal, but I don't want Bromine anywhere near what goes into my mouth. The sad reality is, millions of people around the world are consuming it almost on a daily basis. Brominated Vegetable Oil, or BVO, can be found nearly all sodas in the U.S. and some juices. I've personally had a reaction to the BVO that may be in Pepsi, Coke, and Simply Orange "natural" orange juice. The reaction to Simply Orange was extremely bad. I wonder if spikes in cancer and other serious diseases can be partially explained by the addition of Bromine into the commercial food system. Another not to mention...it's not labeled!
Now that all that has been said, it's time to focus on what you can eat! I'm currently contacting many brands and parent companies in the U.S. that could potentially be on the safe list. I've heard back from about 10 companies so far that practice allergen testing and/or good manufacturing processes to eliminate cross contamination between products. I'll be uploading "The Good List" a.k.a the soy free brands/products I've put into an excel spreadsheet in my next post. Stay tuned =)
Staying positive is key when dealing with health issues, and I've found it more helpful than bitterness and anger in the past. I find positive affirmations to be inspiring and helpful. Louise Hay's writings and quotes are full of positivity and encouragement. Here is one I'd like to share:
"You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that. We think so often that we are helpless, but we're not. We always have the power of our minds…Claim and consciously use your power."--Louise L. Hay
I also thought I'd share a picture of our little sweet Max ;) Remember, let your little light shine!
Best,
Bethany xoxo
Thursday, August 11, 2011
Walk in my shoes: Sans Soy and Gluten
It's August, 2008. Little did I know, I'd began a steep downhill slide at the hands of gluten and soy. Dizzy spells, anxiety, unexplained weight loss, stomach pain, indigestion, brain fog, ADD, and nervous system disorders plagued everyday life until the breaking point. With a diagnosis of celiac/gluten intolerance in early 2009, I began to feel relief and definitely more vibrant. Though I had reached a much better level of health, I was still experiencing some troubling and scary symptoms. Random bouts of dizziness while driving, increased heart rate, inability to gain healthy weight, and some indigestion continued. Over the two years that followed, these symptoms increased to daily occurrences and were joined by some other frightening events....
In spring 2011 just after graduating from the University of Michigan Dearborn, my health took a nosedive. I developed a lump in the throat and throat swelling sensation with difficulty breathing, which sent me to the emergency room three times over a few weeks (not a cheap thing my friends!). I even received a CAT scan and had a camera stuck down my throat, which revealed I was having an allergic reaction to something; but doctors couldn't tell me to what. My chest had developed an unsightly swelling and sensitivity to the touch, which I now know was attributed to soy overload. I began to track my food intake, and realized that each trip to the emergency room corresponded with consumption of soy milk just before. It's true that I had implemented soy very heavily into my diet after going gluten free and I can now look back and link all symptoms to the soy consumption.
My new allergist recently told me it was very possible that I'd developed an adult onset soy allergy, as the only other thing I was allergic to after being poked and prodded for a few hours was perennial mold (not uncommon). She told me I would have a new best friend named Benadryl, and to avoid soy completely. I now know she really didn't do all that she could as far as testing goes. I was never tested for the IgA or IgG reaction (delayed allergic reactions) and only the IgE (severe, immediate). My believing is that I went so long having a delayed allergic reaction that my body developed a stronger, potentially life threatening IgE reaction to cope. I would love to advocate for regular IgA and IgG reactions to be given by all allergists in the U.S., not just by holistic health practitioners.
After attempting to cut out the soy, my body became more and more sensitive to trace amounts. Here's an example: I share a desk with a vegan at work. Since her diet consists more heavily of soy products, the keyboard we shared sent me into anaphylaxis and stomach convulsions after typing then eating my own allergen-free snacks using my hands.
It is much more difficult to find adequate and complete information on the internet regarding how to manage intense soy allergies than it is on how to live on the gluten free diet. Through my own research, uncomfortable trial and error, and lots of support from my loving boyfriend, I'm beginning to feel much safer. I really feel for others that have had to go through this with little help or direction, as it seems soy has contaminated our whole society! You have only to pick an aisle at the grocery store at random (minus the fresh produce section) and take a look at each product's ingredients; and not only in the food section. Shampoos, soaps, makeup, deodorant, toothpaste, and more contain soy derived ingredients. It can be totally scary and overwhelming, especially when soy or soy derived products are not labeled as containing soy. It's maddening at times!! But I know it's all worth the trouble, as my symptoms are waning rapidly. Can I get a hell yea?!
I've decided it's necessary to get as much information on soy allergies on the internet as possible, so I'm officially dedicating this page to Soy-free, Gluten-free living. Here, I plan to share information, advocate for proper labeling, and provide a type of forum for the Soy-free, Gluten-free community. It's time to roll with the punches. And um...punch some soy while we're at it ;-)
Stay positive, focus on what you can eat, know that your body will heal from this, and embrace the day!
See the "About" tab for more information!! Also, please use the "Connect" tab for discussions on topics not yet covered in blog posts. Stay strong, be healthy, and let your little light shine!
Lots of Love,
Bethany xoxo